I Found A Wife – Lafem

Some people say; “love just happens” but my love story has a progression 😁. The year 2014 was when I first set my eyes on Adesola but we did not get to be friends until 2015 when we had to work on a project together. I was saddled with the responsibility of coordinating the third semester brethren of my postgraduate fellowship and I had to choose a co-cordinator and just in a flash, ‘Desola came to mind. Little did I know that in the process of finding a co-cordinator, I would find my wife – my blessing from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22 [TLB]).

Sister ‘A’ (yes, that’s how I call ‘Desola way back and sometimes, still do 😁) made working together so interesting and I can confidently say that she’s full of virtues. After our postgraduate program we went our separate ways but we kept communication going but somewhere around mid 2016 thereabout, there was a break in communication. In November 2016, we reunited for our convocation and that’s how we started talking again.

Towards the last quarter of 2017, work brought her to Ibadan and as a ‘good’ friend, I had to assist in scouting for a decent accommodation for her 😁. I would later visit ‘Desola for the first time in her apartment on Thursday 27th December, 2017 after an end of the year ‘hangout’ organized by my friend ‘Tobi Oso and interestingly, exactly two years after, we did our introduction but how did we get there? Come with me…🤗.

Having been friends with ‘Desola for some time, I began to see some qualities of the kind of wife I had prayed for in her. My conviction about her being God’s ordained help meet for me grew as we rounded up the year but it wasn’t until one beautiful and never to be forgotten day in February 2018 (Sunday, the 4th to be precise) that I presented my ‘manifesto’ before her 🤣. That manifesto, presented to ‘sister A’ as she leaned against a beautiful black lexus car parked in front of a house on the street after hers would later get me a YES after three months and five days 😁.

How did it happen? I was on my way to the office of one of my sports coaches in The University of Ibadan when my phone rang. Guess who the caller was? ‘Desola. As I picked the call after saying hello, the next statement she made was ” I would like to see you; where can we meet?” Immediately, my heart skipped a beat 🤣. I responded “I am in UI at the moment and I would be waiting for you in my unit’s laboratory if you don’t mind.” “It’s fine” she says as she hung the call. You don’t want to know the speed with which I made a U-turn and raced to the lab 🤣. Few minutes later, she showed up and as we sat, she looked at me straight in the face and said “I have come to give you an answer to your question but let me ask, what becomes of our friendship if I said NO?” At that moment, I soliloquized “all die na die” (that’s my way of saying ‘what will be will be’ 🤣). I composed myself and managed to say “we’d still be friends regardless (but deep in my heart, I was hoping her response will move ministry to the permanent site 🤣). She looked at me and a moment of dead silence ensued, finally, she broke the ice with a smile and she said “it’s a YES!” My people, the only joy that supercedes what I felt that Wednesday evening, on the 9th day in the month of May, is that of my salvation and the other one close to it was when I gained admission into the university.

After saying thank you to her, with a grateful heart and the overwhelming joy that filled both our hearts, we prayed right on that spot in the lab, raising a memorial to God as we commited the journey of what would now become #DeLafemUnion in His care. And come September 12 by the grace of God, our friendship of over 5 years which featured 2 years and 4 months of courtship will be solemnized under God in the presence of many witnesses as we officially launch out into the journey of forever 🤗. Indeed, the man who finds a wife finds a good thing; she’s a blessing to him from the Lord. God sure makes all things beautiful in His time.

IbukunOluwasimi, you came into my life, bringing with you the completeness God ordained for me from the beginning of time. You are my jewel of inestimable value and the one with whom I will fulfil purpose by His grace. I love you yesterday, today and forever. Thank you for consenting to walk this journey with me. Ajike, you  are my love story 💓.

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